When you think of privacy in the workplace, do you consider it as the two-edged blade it truly is? I wonder if we do; I know I didn’t. That’s because on-the-job civility emboldens a certain amount of invasion of privacy and working to maintain a balance that not only appreciates the concerns of coworkers while at the same time, holding some things back from prying, investigative eyes, is not as easy as it seems. Let me relate what happened to me… Continue reading
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It’s only two, measly words but used a certain way they’re legitimately powerful with the ability to influence as well as induce. Who would think that such a scrawny phrase in the English language could strike so at the hearts of men, effectively altering their perspectives and often, their deeds along with it? In everyday life and the workplace, their judicious use can initialize joy, camaraderie and peace in almost any circumstance. So why then would some blatantly refuse to recognize and use them?
If you haven’t figured it out by now, I’m talking about “thank you”. It was one of those very, first life lessons we were taught at an early age: say thank you and please. The backbone of all good manners, the words “thank you” are a tool often overlooked in man’s repertoire enabling him to interact in his world. At home, on the block and in relationships, the absence of them will quickly erode trust and turn associations sour. Continue reading
I don’t do sneaky.
At its least, Sneaky is underhanded and conniving. Sneaky is shifty; sneaky is shady. Sneaky forces one to travel along the hallway with their back against the wall hoping to escape any unforeseen thrown knives. Sneaky can be calculating but isn’t overly smart. If it was it would recognize the futility of its selfish ways and appreciate the need of building lasting relationships with others. Nevertheless, sneaky is smooth, covert and able to insinuate itself into all facets of our lives.
At its worst eventually, sneaky turns into something else entirely. At the other extreme, sneaky is dangerous; it’s dastardly. Already perpetually angry, sneaky becomes slightly sociopathic and utterly ruthless. It incorporates and uses the darkest nature of all of its attributes. If it goes this far then sneaky has probably began to show its true face and in that way become something truly scary. That’s when we finally discover that sneaky is evil. And that’s when we start to worry if we’ve made our discovery too late.
Don’t do sneaky; don’t do angry.
Rather, do thoughtful, pensive; anxious, even. Do shy, reserved, compassionate and understanding. Do forthright yet unimposing; challenging yet deferential. Do patriotic yet tolerant; prejudiced yet open-minded. Do conservative yet not extreme; liberal but not wacky. Do generous but not extravagant; especially with money or resources that don’t belong to you. Do cautious but not fearful; brave yet not reckless or stupid. Do learned but not snobbish; educated but not boorish. Do love not hate; make peace not war.